It wasn’t in my plan to write this blog this morning, but I believe it’s long over due. One of my biggest accomplishments in my 20s so far has been learning how to let go. Letting go of bad habits, outgrown situations, negativity, and the hardest one for me, letting go of people. & I don’t want to speak badly about the people I’ve had to let go of, because I believe everyone has good in them. But, it is so very necessary to let go of seasonal people and outgrown relationships. In this, one of the biggest concepts I had to accept was that people, and situations, can sometimes be seasonal. Meaning these people and situations didn’t come in your life in vain. They had a purpose, but now that their purpose has been served, its time to let go. I can even relate this to my college experience. My time at Bloomsburg University was some of the best moments of my life so far. I mean a truly amazing, challenging, and strengthening 4.5 years of my life. I’m so grateful for the experience. I miss it everyday, however it was so necessary for me to graduate when I did. My time there has come and gone. I’ll never forget Bloomsburg but it needed to be let go of. I simply outgrew that situation and I’m ready to take on what’s next. Lord, and my ex. I know y’all are so sick of reading my blog post where I relate it back to him. But he was a big part of my life & this was a huge, huge, Lord huge struggle for me. Learning to let go and be at peace was hard to do. I mean I believe I really challenged God with this one. Every time God told me to let go I fought it. I ignored the signs even when they were clear as day, and when I got hurt again, and again I cried “but why God?” I had to learn that it is okay to love people from a distance. See there is so much history in my relationship with my ex. There is so much love, knowledge, and experience I’ve gained from my ex and his family over the years we shared. I told myself I had to fight for it. I told myself we couldn’t end it, even though ending it was best for the both of us in the long run. I tried to move on by dating other people but when that failed, and I was left thinking about my ex I used that as an excuse to go back to him. And when my ex no longer wanted a relationship with me, I degraded myself by settling for situationships with him. I did that because I loved him and even though we weren’t in a relationship I still thought I had a piece of him. I was hard headed and allowing “love” to not only stress me out, but to physically make me sick. I ignored everyone, friends, family & God. I would not let go.
Until one morning I had this epiphanic moment. I had to asks myself what was I doing? What was I afraid of?
Oprah Winfrey once said “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.” I needed to let go in peace! God wouldn’t fail me. Letting go was what was best. I had to remember that I am a child of the most high God. So letting go didn’t mean that I was angry, or that I felt hate. Letting go didn’t mean that I was giving up. Letting go meant simply “Letting go and letting God.” I had to stop trying to be the controller of situations and remember God is always in control. One of my favorite scriptures is Jeremiah 29:11 it reads “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God is clearly saying “I got this.” When your holding on to something or someone you love and it’s time to let go and grow, God has you! If you live right by God he will take care of you. & it’s not easy. Especially, if your like me. Letting go is hard to do. But God will not fail you! He will bring you peace and joy that nothing or no one else can bring you. You have to trust him. Don’t allow fear and pessimism to control your current situation. Be a big girl, or guy, and let go of the bad relationships, and stagnant situations. Let Go! Let Go! Let Go! If you are feeling indesive and not sure if you should let go, I am telling you to pray on it. Proverbs 3:5-6 reads “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” God is greater than your current situation all you have to do is let go and let God! God would not allow you to let go of something or someone without having bigger and better plans instore for you. Who knows what you can learn about yourself, or how much you can grow in your faith by letting go. Let go and allow the Holy Spirit to work in you, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Let go and watch all the things you accomplish. Let go and live a Rad Life! I hope this post was of use to you. Feel free to life comment & share! -RAD